About Life & Death - A Lesson on my Birthday from Abraham Rogatnick
Saturday, August 31, 2019
On August 29, 2019 some of his friends met for lunch at the
downtown home of MLA Sam Sullivan and his wife Lynn Zanatta. There was copious
food and drink and good conversation as we all compared stories on a man who
had been of some considerable importance in our lives.
I explained to Clancy Dennehy that in Spanish we like to use the word conversar. It is more obvious in Spanish that it means to speak in verse. Conversation at our table was unusually sublime. It was sort of like a Sam Sullivan Salon in which more than one person was talking at one time. And I must add here that perhaps the man who talked the least and listened the most was our MLA (a politician!) Sam Sullivan who certainly does listen.
Some may know that during Sullivan's run for Vancouver Mayor, Abraham Rogatnick was his unoficial but defacto advisor. Of that job Rogatnick told me, "I advise him but he doesn't listen." Like many who have known Rogatnick we have all learned something.
I explained to Clancy Dennehy that in Spanish we like to use the word conversar. It is more obvious in Spanish that it means to speak in verse. Conversation at our table was unusually sublime. It was sort of like a Sam Sullivan Salon in which more than one person was talking at one time. And I must add here that perhaps the man who talked the least and listened the most was our MLA (a politician!) Sam Sullivan who certainly does listen.
Some may know that during Sullivan's run for Vancouver Mayor, Abraham Rogatnick was his unoficial but defacto advisor. Of that job Rogatnick told me, "I advise him but he doesn't listen." Like many who have known Rogatnick we have all learned something.
I told all I would write a blog about our gathering but as I
left for home I began to do some math.
In the last few days since Tuesday I have been thinking about
all the stuff that Rogatnick taught me but I had not delved much on how he
taught me to live and die.
In 2000 I was a youngish man and Rogatnick was an old man
who walked with a cane. I was an awe of an old man who had all his marbles. He
talked about losing his sense of taste. He complained of bad days with
arthritis. He told me how he had special wires attached to the side of his
Honda so he could tell when he was close to a curb or a wall.
What can I think about as all that has come to haunt me now
as I am now that 77 year-old man, not quite yet walking with a cane?
From left - Bruno Freschi, Lynn Zanatta, Geoff Massey, Clancy Dennehy, Carolyn Chan, Jennifer Shipper, Sam Sullivan, Henry Tsang and Charles Barber - August 28 2019 |
A week before he died (he told his doctors a year before that date that he wanted to pull the plug on his prostate cancer treatment) I went to visit him at the hospital. I cannot imagine having any other friend to whom I could read Ambrose Bierce’s short story Parker Adderson, Philosopher which is all about the folly of not fearing death when it is planned but of the reaction one has when faced with death in a present moment instance.
Of Rogatnick I have written a few blogs:
Alvin Balkind & a rear view of the Belkin Gallery
The Philosopher King & the Philosopher Queen
Civics and civility at City Hall
Christmas 2007 with the philosopher king and Henry James
Christmas 2006 Nochebuena with Abraham
Abraham Switches Off
AND Clancy Dennehy's video on Abraham Rogatnick
What would be my hope for a near future? I would wish that Sullivan would vary his salon into a small round table where architects Geoff Massey, Bruno Freschi, landscape architect Cornelia Oberlander and a few others would discuss what they know about our city. We would all listen.
The Philosopher King & the Philosopher Queen
Civics and civility at City Hall
Christmas 2007 with the philosopher king and Henry James
Christmas 2006 Nochebuena with Abraham
Abraham Switches Off
AND Clancy Dennehy's video on Abraham Rogatnick
What would be my hope for a near future? I would wish that Sullivan would vary his salon into a small round table where architects Geoff Massey, Bruno Freschi, landscape architect Cornelia Oberlander and a few others would discuss what they know about our city. We would all listen.