Rosemary, Rosa María, Rosemarie
Friday, September 10, 2021
|Rosa 'Olivier Roellinger' 11 September 2021|
el internet información sobre el nombre de mi mujer. La conocí con su nombre en
inglés, Rosemary. Nunca use el nombre en castellano Rosa María. Por otro lado
mis amigos latinos la llamaban Rose Marie quizá por la antigua película musical
Rose Marie del 1936 con su tema canadiense.
resultó gracioso y conmovedor: Instituto de Historia Familiar
Rosa María es encantadora y pasional. Coqueta
que echiza y huye para preservar su independencia, lo que la hace dueña de sí
misma, pero en general, poco feliz. Si llega al matrimonio será esposa
diligente y entregada. Posee un gran instinto maternal.
los días ahora que se nos viene el otoño en Vancouver aún florecen mis rosas.
Una de ellas, Rosa ‘Olivier Roellinger’ es una rosa que Rosemary compró en
octubre, dos meses y pico, ántes de morir el 9 de diciembre. El rosal y otros dos me
llegaron a la puerta en febrero. El rosal, y esta linda flor para mí es un
recuerdo directo de Rosemary. Es un recuerdo y regalo póstumo y veo en la flor
la presencia de mi Rosa María.
|18 August 2021|
Rosemary's Acumen for Finances & Clematis
Thursday, September 09, 2021
|Clematis heracleifolia davidiana 9 September 2021|
A semi-herbaceous perennial with strong stems that mature
into a clump. The lightly scented, clear lavender-blue, hyacinth like, 1.5″ (3.5cm) flowers, are produced
in late July through September. Mature height 3′
The genus name Clematis is from Ancient Greek clématis,
("a climbing plant") from κλῆμα klema – 'twig, sprout, tendril'.
Over 250 species and cultivars are known, often named for their originators or
My Rosemary was singularly responsible for not only
making me a gardener but also a serious one. It was in the garden where in
small way I got away from my obsessional interest in portraiture. But in the
end I took many portraits of our family including our two granddaughters in our
We became so serious that our interest in plants focused
on using the proper botanical nomenclature. It was Rosemary who nudged me away
from hostas into other plants like hardy geraniums, roses and all kinds of
plants I had never heard of.
|Clematis 'Taiga' & Hosta 'El Niño' 21 June 2021|
Rosemary also brought into our life her acumen for
financial matters. Now at my age of 79, finances are not a worry in the least.
Our two daughters, if I were to die today, would not have to be concerned about
where their next buck would come from.
I have to admit here that while I was very good in
mathematics (even calculus) in my past, compound interest and everything else
related to banking is beyond my understanding.
And then there are Rosemary’s clematis (to be pronounced
because the origin of the word is from the Greek “klém –ahtis” and another word
from the Greek that which women have that we men do not have should follow in
the same pronunciation) which to me are as complex to understand as banking.
The climbing clematis has to be pruned according to which
class its from. I think there are 3. Some in particular like Clematis montana if not pruned regularly
can bring down your house. I would assert that this clematis is an honorary
Rosemary in 2020 had the idea of planting non-invasive
clematis with our potted roses. Eventually I will have to figure out how to
prune them as I try to figure out my banking statements.
But there is one small relief. There is a class of
clematis called herbaceous clematis that does not climb. You do not have to prune
them and you treat them like any other perennial.
I have waited all summer to finally scan today Clematis heracleifolia davidiana. I have yet to confirm what the
correct name of this clematis is. I have seen:
Clematis heracleifolia davidiana
Clemats heracleifolia var davidiana
Clematis heracleifolia ‘Davidiana’
In any case every time I look at a climbing clematis or a
herbaceous one in my garden I can imagine Rosemary doing her banking with her
Is there anything around me that does not remind me of
Grief & the Yellow & the Blue
Monday, September 06, 2021
|Rosa 'Buttercup' & Salvia patens - 6 September 2021|
Grief, I now understand comes in many levels.
My mother was 59 when
she died in 1972. Rosemary was there with me when she breathed in and did not
exhale. The only doctor in our neighbourhood of Arboledas, Estado de México, was
a veterinarian. He tried to soften the blow by saying (using a diminutive), “Está muertita.”
I have had 49 years for my grief to dissipate. That my
mother died in the presence of my wife was one of the many important
experiences that we shared. Rosemary loved my mother.
Now with the death of Rosemary on December 9 I have had
almost 10 months of a terrible time and I know I will not have 49 more years to
perhaps lessen my grief.
With all this happening I had one moment of lucidity today.
I have a nephew (I adore him) who is two years younger than my 79. His name is
Georgito O’Reilly. He lives in Buenos Aires. When he was 13 his mother, my
first cousin and godmother, was widowed. Georgito had two younger brothers and
a sister. He had to quit school and got a job as an office courier at Remington Rand when he was15. For the
rest of his life he was plagued by lots of bad luck. His wife had a brain
aneurism 10 years ago. Then in the span of three years, a couple of years ago,
he lost his mother, two brothers and a son.
I cannot begin to understand how he navigates his grief. It
does not make me feel better but I do consider now that grief has levels of
I cannot leave this blog with this melancholic negativity.
The scan here is about plants I have often written about. When we started
gardening in 1986 Rosemary only wanted plants that had either blue or white
flowers. But slowly she developed an appreciation of yellows.
The Blue & the Yellow
an English Rose.When she saw the rose at a local nursery she immediately had to buy it. The
blue Salvia patens was always a
favourite of hers. With the garden in decline, today 6 September 2021, a sunny
day, somehow seeing these two bright beacons of Rosemary’s taste for the good
things, made me smile.